There Is Nothing Gentle About Spanking

I still can’t believe what I read in Grandparents.com! This is from someone who is now a grandfather: “…Yes I do believe in a gentle spanking—but then you hold them, give them a hug, and don’t let them go until they stop crying…”

How can he think that he has treated his child gently if he has done something deliberately that makes his child cry?

The number one definition of ‘gentle’ is ‘kind.’ Now maybe this grandfather thought it was kindness to hurt his child. Maybe he thought that if he hurt the child a little now, it would save the child from greater hurt later.

If this was such an effective and worthwhile form of teaching children how to behave, why is his daughter not practicing this with her children? She is deliberately NOT practicing this! What does that say about this practice?

I think that this practice has been well-established as based on wrong thinking. Even pediatricians believe that spanking is not a really helpful form of teaching children how to behave ‘properly.’

I have to let it be known that even the daughter’s form of punishment is not really necessary, as is also hurtful. There is no need to punish anyone!

There is a much more effective way of teaching children how to behave…that does not involve punishment…at all. It helps children know exactly what to do and when to do it. It also enlists the child’s enthusiasm to behave acceptably. Children are eager to participate. So are adults, once they try this.

It’s called the Power of Respect…and I’m not considered The Miracle Worker…of Education and Parenting for nothing.

To learn more check out my other blogs: The Power of Respect and kvryce.

You can also go to my website: http://www.parentchildteacher.com